ALL THINGS MUST COME TO AN END!
Christmas holidays were great, but it's "back to grind" of employment tomorrow. I had hoped to paint the nursery while I was off as the paint has been sitting in my hallway for weeks, but we never seemed to get around to it. Perhaps it will get done over this coming weekend. We have more paperwork to fill out this week and a few things we need to mail to our AP (Adoption Practitioner) but we're almost done - at least until the next stack arrives!
December 28, 2009
December 25, 2009
A PARTRIGE IN A PEAR TREE
Mr. Claus came to the house last night...and boy did he deliver. The stockings were stuffed, and the presents were left under the tree with care.
Sleeping in on holiday, although seemingly a grand idea, was not going to happen. I rudely awoke at 6am by our spoiled little brat, our morkie Pip, jumping on my head. I swear she's worse than a toddler.
The morning was perfectly lazy - brewed some coffee, ate some marble cake, opened our gifts, played with the dogs, visited the folks for a few hours and returned home to relax and eat some chocolate. It's a great day to kick back and do nothing.
December 23, 2009
December 18, 2009
REALITY RECAP
From the very beginning of our relationship more than ten years ago, we spoke about how important it was for us to be a family. We love kids and without them in our lives something very important feels missing. Both my husband and I have large extended families, so when we finally took the conformative plunge into matrimony, we knew we wanted to start a family right away.
When things didn’t go as originally planned, we spent hours and hours worth of researching so that we could become informed of the adoption and fertility methods available to us, but after much discussion about our hopes and morals, we decided that adopting children internationally was the best decision for our family.
To us, the importance of becoming a family truly out weighed the method in which it occurred. Simply stated – we want to be parents. OMG – did I just admit that.
THE WHY'S
Time to answer the most common, sometimes ridiculous questions that we have received since we started to announce our plan to adopt:
Why can't you get pregnant? We never said we couldn’t,
we simply haven’t.
Why adopt? There are many ways to make a family. We decided this was the best path for us.
Why go international? The need is there, we fit the inter-country eligibility requirements and it suited what we wanted. Although international adoption is full of ups and downs, mounds of red tape, paperwork galore and many uncertainties, it is controllable and has the inevitable light at the end of the tunnel. This is not the case with private or domestic adoptions in Canada – there are no guarantees.
Why Vietnam? Tough to answer. Like a hot cup of hot cocoa in front of the fire on a cold winter’s night, the thoughts of a child from Vietnam warmed the sole and felt right. Although a vibrant and lovely country, Vietnam is among one of the poorest in the world and single parenthood is unfortunately unaccepted and severally frowned up on. Many children are abandoned or registered to the care of an orphanage because of this social prejudice and extreme poverty.
On a more positive note, VN is generally a healthy country. The Vietnamese eat well, get lots of natural vitamin D and actively take care of themselves. They also have very low percentages of drug and alcohol abuse, unlike Canada, which means that most little “dragonflies” come into the world healthy and without addiction.
Although VN is half way around the globe, it is a beautiful country with a culture that interested us both. When we decided on which country to pursue, it was important that we were not only willing to open our hearts and home to a Vietnamese child, but that we lovingly embrace the responsibility of teaching her about the heritage and culture of her birth country as we will forever be connected to it.
Why a girl? There are several personal reasons why we gender selected but they are just that, personal and they will remain so, respectively. However, let it be known to those who say “If you conceived a birth child, you’d get whatever grew within you, with no choice” This is true – but there’s also the misconception that adoption is a replacement for a pregnancy. Believe me it’s not, nor is it remotely comparable. It is just a different way to build a family and with it, came choices – this was ours.
When things didn’t go as originally planned, we spent hours and hours worth of researching so that we could become informed of the adoption and fertility methods available to us, but after much discussion about our hopes and morals, we decided that adopting children internationally was the best decision for our family.
To us, the importance of becoming a family truly out weighed the method in which it occurred. Simply stated – we want to be parents. OMG – did I just admit that.
THE WHY'S
Time to answer the most common, sometimes ridiculous questions that we have received since we started to announce our plan to adopt:
Why can't you get pregnant? We never said we couldn’t,
we simply haven’t.
Why adopt? There are many ways to make a family. We decided this was the best path for us.
Why go international? The need is there, we fit the inter-country eligibility requirements and it suited what we wanted. Although international adoption is full of ups and downs, mounds of red tape, paperwork galore and many uncertainties, it is controllable and has the inevitable light at the end of the tunnel. This is not the case with private or domestic adoptions in Canada – there are no guarantees.
Why Vietnam? Tough to answer. Like a hot cup of hot cocoa in front of the fire on a cold winter’s night, the thoughts of a child from Vietnam warmed the sole and felt right. Although a vibrant and lovely country, Vietnam is among one of the poorest in the world and single parenthood is unfortunately unaccepted and severally frowned up on. Many children are abandoned or registered to the care of an orphanage because of this social prejudice and extreme poverty.
On a more positive note, VN is generally a healthy country. The Vietnamese eat well, get lots of natural vitamin D and actively take care of themselves. They also have very low percentages of drug and alcohol abuse, unlike Canada, which means that most little “dragonflies” come into the world healthy and without addiction.
Why a girl? There are several personal reasons why we gender selected but they are just that, personal and they will remain so, respectively. However, let it be known to those who say “If you conceived a birth child, you’d get whatever grew within you, with no choice” This is true – but there’s also the misconception that adoption is a replacement for a pregnancy. Believe me it’s not, nor is it remotely comparable. It is just a different way to build a family and with it, came choices – this was ours.
December 17, 2009
EPIPHANY
Epiphany: the sudden realization or comprehension of the essence or meaning of something.
When I married my wonderful husband two years ago, I never would have imagined that I would one day be creating a personal blog about our journey to create a family. Even though we officially began this unbelievable adventure over four months ago, I have been apprehensive. Who knows, maybe I’m becoming superstitious as I get older or perhaps I was scared to start typing until we got the final approval to proceed. Now that we have it and are moving forward in what feels like a lightening bolt, it feels surreal. I'm going to be a mommy...
When I married my wonderful husband two years ago, I never would have imagined that I would one day be creating a personal blog about our journey to create a family. Even though we officially began this unbelievable adventure over four months ago, I have been apprehensive. Who knows, maybe I’m becoming superstitious as I get older or perhaps I was scared to start typing until we got the final approval to proceed. Now that we have it and are moving forward in what feels like a lightening bolt, it feels surreal. I'm going to be a mommy...
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